Tip #3: Try to Develop a Positive Mindset
This is not a post about being positive despite your illness. When you have hyperemesis gravidarum (hg), there is nothing anyone can say to actually make the constant nausea, vomiting and exhaustion go away.
People who suggest that you should be grateful because:
- HG goes away (at least you don’t have cancer)
- You’re lucky to be pregnant (not everyone can conceive)
- It could be worse (you could be homeless)
have obviously never experienced HG. It’s important to cut them some slack, as they most likely care and are trying to help. And hey, there is a grain of truth in what they say. Things could be worse. Hearing that does not make the illness go away, but counting your blessings does make a certain kind of sense. There is power in positive thinking, even if it means forcing yourself to think two positive thoughts for every negative thought that passes through your mind. One of the best ways to keep things in perspective is to focus on the good in your life. One of the easiest ways to do this is to write a list of everything good in your life. Can’t think of anything? Begin simply. Try to list five things you are grateful for every day. Post the list on your wall and watch it grow throughout your pregnancy. Read it during your most difficult days.
It is so difficult to be positive when illness follows you like a dark cloud, but forcing yourself to find a few things you are grateful for will help things look a little brighter. Can you help others develop a positive viewpoint in the midst of their suffering? Share what you do to deal by posting a comment below.