Tip #3: Try to Develop a Positive Mindset

This is not a post about being positive despite your illness. When you have hyperemesis gravidarum (hg), there is nothing anyone can say to actually make the constant nausea, vomiting and exhaustion go away.

People who suggest that you should be grateful because:

  1. HG goes away (at least you don’t have cancer)
  2. You’re lucky to be pregnant (not everyone can conceive)
  3. It could be worse (you could be homeless)

have obviously never experienced HG. It’s important to cut them some slack, as they most likely care and are trying to help. And hey, there is a grain of truth in what they say. Things could be worse. Hearing that does not make the illness go away, but counting your blessings does make a certain kind of sense. There is power in positive thinking, even if it means forcing yourself to think two positive thoughts for every negative thought that passes through your mind. One of the best ways to keep things in perspective is to focus on the good in your life. One of the easiest ways to do this is to write a list of everything good in your life. Can’t think of anything? Begin simply. Try to list five things you are grateful for every day. Post the list on your wall and watch it grow throughout your pregnancy. Read it during your most difficult days.

It is so difficult to be positive when illness follows you like a dark cloud, but forcing yourself to find a few things you are grateful for will help things look a little brighter. Can you help others develop a positive viewpoint in the midst of their suffering? Share what you do to deal by posting a comment below.


Rest is Best

Tip #2: Take Time to Rest

As women, we are often juggling myriad tasks: changing the baby, cleaning the bath tub, answering the phone, folding the laundry… it never ends. And yet to be been better at these tasks, we need to take time for ourselves. Taking care of ourselves is one of the hardest things for us to find time for.

When you have hyperemesis gravidarum (HG), the temptation to “overdo it” is overwhelming. Not only do we feel terribly ill and exhausted, we are weighed down by an immensely strong sense of guilt because we are unable to complete everyday tasks like washing the dishes or vacuuming the rug. Yet forcing ourselves to complete chores often makes HG even worse. Avoiding rest can bring on another binge of vomiting, dehydration, and inevitably exhaustion.

Pushing aside the guilt you feel and allowing yourself to rest will help. Your job, right now, is to cook that baby. Part of the recipe for your particular little bun include a fair amount of rest, and the more the better. You will work yourself raw when the baby comes, but for now avoid relapses by forcing yourself to rest the best that you can.

How do you overcome the pull to work? Help others by sharing your thoughts in a comment below.

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