Rest is Best

Tip #2: Take Time to Rest

As women, we are often juggling myriad tasks: changing the baby, cleaning the bath tub, answering the phone, folding the laundry… it never ends. And yet to be been better at these tasks, we need to take time for ourselves. Taking care of ourselves is one of the hardest things for us to find time for.

When you have hyperemesis gravidarum (HG), the temptation to “overdo it” is overwhelming. Not only do we feel terribly ill and exhausted, we are weighed down by an immensely strong sense of guilt because we are unable to complete everyday tasks like washing the dishes or vacuuming the rug. Yet forcing ourselves to complete chores often makes HG even worse. Avoiding rest can bring on another binge of vomiting, dehydration, and inevitably exhaustion.

Pushing aside the guilt you feel and allowing yourself to rest will help. Your job, right now, is to cook that baby. Part of the recipe for your particular little bun include a fair amount of rest, and the more the better. You will work yourself raw when the baby comes, but for now avoid relapses by forcing yourself to rest the best that you can.

How do you overcome the pull to work? Help others by sharing your thoughts in a comment below.

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Ask for Help

We often feel that we can, and should, do it all. We’re on the run from morning until evening– getting everyone ready for the day, working eight hours, and then completing chores and housework until collapsing into bed. If you’re suffering through a hyperemesis gravidarum pregnancy, however, just getting out of bed and walking to the bathroom is a difficult endeavor. Accomplishing myriad chores you’re used to completing may be nearly impossible. To survive hg, you need to ask for help. Most women can’t afford to hire maids and nannys, so you’ll have to be creative. If there were ever a time to lean on family, now is it. Beg and barter with friends and neighbors, seek out church and community groups, and accept any help that is offered. Allowing others to carry some of the burden for a while helps them, too. And when you are better, you’ll be a stronger and humbler version of yourself, someone who understands just how much kindness is in the human heart.

Become a Self Advocate

It’s not easy sticking up for yourself when you’re sick. When you have Hyperemesis Gravidarum, all you want to do is sleep away your life because sleep is often the only state that provides relief. Weighed down by endless visits to the emergency room for intravenous hydration, visits to their obstetrician, and the try-it-and-see approach to finding foods that will stay down (or at least be somewhat pleasant throwing up), makes it difficult to fight for the care that you need. Yet this is one of the most important things you can do to help you survive this tough time.

Tip #1: Distraction, distraction, distraction

When you’re suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum (hg), it may be difficult to find relief from the endless nausea and vomiting. It sounds simple, but distracting your mind from the ever-present queasiness can really help.  Surviving hg is a battle won one hour at a time, and anything you can do to get through the next hour will help. Whether it’s diving into a new series on Netflix, learning to knit, or listening to a book on cd, finding something that occupies your mind is one of the most helpful ways to conquer this condition.

Help someone who is suffering by sharing your tips for distraction: What works for you?

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Getting the Support You Need

There are so ways an expectant mother needs help while she’s growing a little one. Love, compassion, and (often most importantly) food are key to helping her feel supported. Yet when a woman is suffering with hypermesis gravidarum, she needs so much more.

Medical care is at the top of the list. Finding a doctor who is knowledgeable, empathetic, and flexible is often difficult but so very important. Medical professionals who believe that HG will pass, is a psychological condition, or will fade with ginger and crackers do exist.

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